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At this low period in my life, the weekly get together and follow up gave me purpose, focus and deep understanding of my situation. It was great to be able to work with other women in similar circumstances. Plus, the expert guidance, advice and care from Anouska and Karina who facilitated the group, made me feel comfortable and at ease when sharing my intimate thoughts and information.
Thank you for helping me through this…Client
Noticeable difference in mood since last session, still depressed, yet anxiety and panic attacks reduced significantly. It’s the first time he has been able to have a productive conversation with her after the session. She was very positive upon returning home. He believes that it will be helpful, so does she, compared to 2 weeks ago him being very concerned about her and discussion worries with HVClient's partner
Postnatal depression occurs much more frequently than people imagine: 10-15 in every 100 women become depressed after having a baby. Many women with postnatal depression feel guilty and frightened and are isolated. Making the most of motherhood course, with its emphasis on social support, psycho-education and CBT techniques to improve mood and increase confidence is very often just what my patients’ need in addition to the input they receive from their GP and from the perinatal mental health service. I have referred many patients to this group and neither my patients nor I have ever been disappointed.Psychiatrist
All work in progress I suppose as there’s no quick fixClient
When I first considered Skype therapy, I was unsure of how it would work and whether it would feel authentic. However, after moving to Australia and being unable to find a psychologist that I felt I could connect with, like I had with Anouska in the UK, I decided to give Skype therapy a go. It was a great decision. Although there are thousands of miles between us, it doesn’t feel like that at all. It is so easy, convenient and genuine. I highly recommend it!
To be able to open up and really heal, you need to find a counsellor that you can connect with; who is compassionate, a good listener and who genuinely wants to help you. Anouska is one of those people. I came to her in a dark place and while the journey certainly hasn’t been easy, Anouska has provided the unwavering support and guidance that I needed, going above and beyond to assist me. I can’t thank her enough for everything she has done and continues to do for me.Client
I really enjoyed the MMOM course both as a means of helping me day-to- day and on an intellectual levelClient
I attended a 10 week course held at a community setting on making the most of motherhood. I loved this course for a number of reasons:
- The facilitators were excellent and made us feel very welcome and safe in sharing information amongst the
- It was great to meet other mums who were struggling to raise their children
- It was a welcome break from looking after my little ones as they had a crèche onsite and were looked after for two hours whilst I attended the course next door
- I met some wonderful mums who shared how they were coping every week and were very honest with how they were feeling.
- I feel much more confident and my mood is much more upbeat as I now have a set of tools and techniques to make the most of motherhood
As for the MMOM course, in my view it is a very valuable resource for health visitors’ team to refer to. We have received only positive feedback. Clients say that it is wonderful to have time to focus on themselves. As a health visitor, I find many mothers do not have the passed down skills and coping mechanisms to look after a baby and so this causes anxiety. Family networks for support and guidance are not always there for mothers and fathers. MMOM can help with this; it is fantastic that it involves the fathers, which is so important now as many dads take a 50/50 role in parenting their children.Health Visitor
Nearly a year on and I’m still raving on about how much the course helped meClient
The positive thing is that I’m working on coming off my antidepressants so my dosage is a quarter of what is was. I really don’t want to be on them long term which makes me more determined to work with the tools given to me from therapy and from your course (I still refer to the material that you have given to us).Client
I have found online therapy really great. Karina was brilliant and has helped me to get my life back to normalClient
There’s the mum at the supermarket, crying baby strapped to her chest, a purse yet to be found, and a growing tightness in her chest. There’s the mum who says “absolutely, everything is great”, longing for a chance to say how she really feels, and wondering where she went wrong. There’s the mum who dreams of life before baby, pained by guilt as her beautiful child smiles and giggles. There’s the mum who cries on the carpet next to the cot, as another nap is resisted. There’s the mum who lies awake, watching her child, while searching for a neighbourly light to suggest she’s not alone. There’s the mum who doesn’t recognise her body and who can’t “break through” the breastfeeding pain. There’s the mum who has discovered a side to herself that she cannot understand, accept or control.
Before MMOM, I didn’t have the courage to admit many of these experiences of motherhood, never mind all of them. Now, I know that I am not alone. Now, I know that I have a voice, and that voice shouldn’t be afraid. Motherhood means many things to many people and everyone’s experiences are different, but that doesn’t mean there should be barriers in the way of honesty, any shame if things aren’t going “to plan”, nor any delay in seeking help if necessary. When I started MMOM, I realised that my experiences and feelings were not unique to me. They were shared by others in the room (how a smile, nod, or comforting hand on the shoulder makes such a difference!) and, arguably, wouldn’t be uncommon outside of the room. Yes, motherhood is tough. Having a “safe space” where we could admit that openly and be free from judgement (could mothers today be more dogged by information, controversy and judgement?), was therapeutic, confidence-boosting and a weekly “treat” I cherished and looked forward to. I surprised myself at how comfortable I became talking in front of a group, and how greatly I missed that sisterly support once it ended. The crèche was eye-opening by showing us all that a break for mum shouldn’t equal guilt. A break makes a better parent – and guess what, the babies enjoyed themselves too!
The CBT techniques explored during MMOM were very practical, particularly (for me) in relation to anxiety and unhelpful thoughts. The idea that we could take control – and that others were doing the same – felt empowering at a time when that’s the last thing you expect to feel. Of course, the material that could be covered is vast; personally I could benefit from further CBT. I see MMOM as a starting point from which to continue that journey. My only regret was not seeking help, nor discovering MMOM, sooner. But, whether your child is 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years old, MMOM can be a lifeline. It was certainly one of the key elements that got me back on track”Client